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well there is some noticeable variability to this of course.. but it is also the reason that 100% of my girlfriends have started out as buddies or more particularly, women/girls who I spent a LOT of time hanging out near. It eliminated the problematic part of dating for me. If we went out as friends, I didn't mind sometimes paying for them because I 'd do the same for any of my friends. I guess my point is that I'm still getting something out of the deal, I am getting to spend time with a friend. The dilemma I have with dating is that I am expected to do 100% of the work, and foot 100% of the bill. I understand that this really is not consistently the situation, but at least in my part of the world it's still quite much anticipated. So paying to take 1 girl out on 1 date will cost around 100$ by the time you factor in gas, food, actions, etc. "Free" dates are fantastic, but require you to reside around where there is actually things to do for free.
I'm not interested in telling you 'you are wrong to feel this way', and I can understand wanting to skip past the arduous job of the dating stage. Logistically, though, I really don't get how that is supposed to work. How are you going to both choose to enter a committed relationship together if you don't at least go on a date first? Compatibility on paper, and even being friends with someone, doesn't tell you very much about how you'd be as a couple. Most folks don't jump straight into the committed relationship period without even going on a date, so that will hinder you that much more (if not entirely) if that's your demand.
Online dating was designed to alleviate this somewhat by letting you skip lots of experiment by being able to read and message folks who were supposedly more predisposed to being your "kind". That of course lead to the LARGEST reason why I can't use online dating. Geographically I am such a square peg in a round hole it removes almost everyone. The final time I had an OKCupid page, the great majority of individuals had something in the range of a 60% match with me.. so after messaging everyone with a 75% and up.. and getting 2 answers.. which lead no where? I was out of individuals to message. The turn over rate was not high enough, and the few women who did message me were so totally out of the kingdom of possibilities of suitable that it was almost laughable, though I applaud their self esteem!
I really gave up on it for lots of the same motives. The biggest is simply that, I gave Online Dating a attempt in the first place just because I'm result oriented when it comes to dating. pre-requisitional dating, EG dating before a committed relationship is formed, is simply worry, expense, and also a continuous greatest behaviour as you're attempting to impress a person enough to determine you are worth being in a relationship with. Since that is what I desire, a relationship, not dating, not hooking up, but an actual relationship which will hopefully become long term. simply put, I simply do not locate dating "enjoyable", never have and never will. I had rather go out on my own, spend my money on me, and then at least I already know that I dislike myself and do not need to see me again.. It is less dangerous. Apparently according to basically everyone, I'm incorrect to feel this way, but it does not change the fact that this is how I feel about it. Dating is only entertaining when it's after the relationship has been formed and you are not any longer having to put on a persona to be able to keep them interested. I get it, I really do, some people just get enjoyment from meeting new folks.. I am not one of those individuals. I do not want to have to date 100 women in order to get a relationship, and I couldn't do it fiscally even if I needed to.
My first idea was to just try everything. Which I did. Online dating was part of that. Second I have really tried to repeatedly give online dating a chance. Why? Mostly because people keep talking about it. You've posts like this one, buddies who attempt it etc. Third because the sites are quite proficient at creating a sucker of me. Fit sends me e-mails regularly telling me 10 women have checked out my profile or that some women have expressed interest. I block these emails now since I know Match is evil evil evil.
And I know above you said that you do not comprehend why women are reluctant to give out numbers and I am sure if I clarify it you likely still won't accept it. But contemplating all the cock pics my buddies have been sent, together with the harassing stalking messages that go on and on, nicely yup women are wary to hand out their numbers. They are able to block someone far simpler on a dating site who starts acting terribly. I really don't believe you fully understand what women go through with online dating. It may not be the same kind of frustrations as you do, but I would strongly recommend going to tumblr and seek the Okcupid label. You'll notice the women post about being harassed and called horrible names and the dudes post about non-answers. And it can make me shake my head since if the guys would only do as I do and search that Okcupid tag they may learn WHY women do not respond. Time and time again a woman will politely reply that she isn't interested and she then gets called a "c" in response. Not answering merely becomes the safest method to avoid harassment.
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