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well there's some apparent variability to this of course.. but it is also the reason that 100% of my girlfriends have started out as buddies or more specifically, women/girls who I spent a LOT of time hanging out around. It removed the debatable part of dating for me. If we went out as friends, I did not mind occasionally paying for them because I 'd do the same for any of my friends. I guess my point is that I'm still getting something out of the deal, I am getting to spend some time with a buddy. The dilemma I have with dating is that I am expected to do 100% of the work, and foot 100% of the invoice. I recognize that this really isn't consistently the case, but at least in my part of the world it's still very much anticipated. So paying to take 1 woman out on 1 date will cost around 100$ by the time you factor in gas, food, activities, etc. "Free" dates are great, but require you to live someplace where there is actually stuff to do for free.
I'm not interested in telling you 'you're incorrect to feel this way', and I can understand wanting to skip past the arduous task of the dating phase. Logistically, though, I don't get how that's supposed to work. How will you both choose to enter a committed relationship together should you not at least go on a date first? Compatibility on paper, and even being friends with someone, does not tell you very much about how you'd be as a couple. Most folks don't leap straight into the committed relationship phase without even going on a date, so that will hinder you that much more (if not completely) if that's your requirement.
Online dating was supposed to alleviate this somewhat by allowing you to bypass lots of experimentation by having the ability to read and message people who were supposedly more predisposed to being your "type". That of course lead to the GREATEST reason why I can not use online dating. Geographically I'm such a square peg in a round hole it removes almost everyone. The last time I had an OKCupid page, the vast majority of people had something in the scope of a 60% match with me.. so after messaging everyone with a 75% and up.. and getting 2 responses.. which lead no where? I was out of folks to message. The turn over rate was not high enough, and the few women who did message me were so absolutely out of the land of possibilities of suitable that it was almost laughable, though I applaud their self esteem!
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My first notion was to only try everything. Which I did. Online dating was part of that. Second I have really tried to repeatedly give online dating a chance. Why? Largely because people keep talking about it. You've posts like this one, buddies who attempt it etc. Third because the sites are pretty proficient at creating a sucker of me. Match sends me e-mails often telling me 10 women have checked out my profile or that some women have expressed interest. I block these emails now because I know Match is evil evil evil.
And I know above you said that you don't comprehend why women are reluctant to give out numbers and I am confident if I clarify it you probably still will not accept it. But contemplating all of the penis pics my buddies have been sent, along with the harassing stalking messages that go on and on, well yup women are wary to hand out their numbers. They are able to block someone much simpler on a dating site who starts acting terribly. I really don't believe you fully understand what women go through with online dating. It may not be the same sort of frustrations as you do, but I would highly recommend going to tumblr and hunt the Okcupid tag. You will notice the women post about being harassed and called terrible names along with the guys post about non-responses. And it can make me shake my head because if the men would just do as I do and search that Okcupid label they may learn WHY women do not respond. Time and time again a woman will politely reply that she isn't interested and she then gets called a "c" in response. Not responding simply becomes the safest procedure to prevent harassment.
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