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Ugh. I am embarrassed to have written that. I wish the signs pointed to something different, something egalitarian and modern, but when I get real with my own online dating M.., it's the truth. I have sent messages to men before, sure, but the ratio is modest. Ten to one? Twenty to one? Once in a blue moon? I don't have to, and so I don't make myself go through the chilling exercise of asking for thought and maybe being rejected or ignored. Why would I place myself through the rollercoaster of the drafting, the editing, the sending, the waiting, the hoping, the checking account, and the sighing in disappointment when the fact of my sex (and let us be real; that's really all it's) means the focus comes to me? This is not how I want this work, but I condone it with my inaction.
This really isn't the behaviour I would expect of a feminist, sex-positive 21st century lady. It's not conduct I am particularly proud of either. Why don't I write messages first? Why don't I reach out to the guys with the comical handles and great taste in books, the ones who post pictures with goofy faces and like tacos nearly as much as I enjoy tacos? Why do I not respond politely to every message, even the ones I'm not interested in? Why do I switch between playing the damsel and the playing the demanding entitled ahole? Because it is just so simple.
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