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Ugh. I am embarrassed to have written that. I wish the signs pointed to something else, something egalitarian and modern, but when I get real with my own online dating M.., it is the truth. I've sent messages to guys before, certainly, but the ratio is modest. Ten to one? Twenty to one? Once in a blue moon? I do not have to, and so I do not make myself go through the terrifying exercise of asking for consideration and maybe being rejected or dismissed. Why would I put myself through the rollercoaster of the drafting, the editing, the sending, the waiting, the expecting, the checking, and the sighing in disappointment when the fact of my gender (and let us be real; that is actually all it's) means the attention comes to me? This isn't how I need this work, but I condone it with my inaction.
This is not the behaviour I would expect of a feminist, sex-positive 21st century lady. It is not behavior I am particularly proud of either. Why do not I write messages first? Why do not I reach out to the guys with the amusing handles and great taste in books, the ones who post images with goofy faces and like tacos nearly as much as I enjoy tacos? Why do I not reply politely to each message, even the ones I am not interested in? Why do I switch between playing the damsel and also the playing the demanding entitled ahole? As it is only so easy.
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