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This isn't the behavior I'd expect of a feminist, sex-positive 21st century woman. It is not behavior I am especially proud of either. Why don't I write messages first? Why don't I reach out to the guys with the amusing handles and good taste in books, the ones who post graphics with goofy faces and like tacos nearly as much as I enjoy tacos? Why do I not answer politely to every message, even the ones I'm not interested in? Why do I alternate between playing the damsel and the playing the demanding entitled ahole? Since it is just so easy.
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